After cremations as part of Cleveland, OH cremation services, the grieving process begins for the family members who have lost a loved one. When these family members are friends or extended family, we immediately are moved to comfort and support them, but we don’t often know if we should say anything, or if we do, what would be the right thing to say.
In reality, sometimes more silence than words is okay if we don’t know what to say and we’re afraid that we might say the wrong thing. But we can acknowledge the loss of a loved one and we can express our sympathy to our grieving friends and extended family members.
When someone is grieving, they may simply want to talk about their loss and their grief (some people don’t want to and we should respect that as well). They are not looking for advice or wisdom or counsel. They just need to be able to express to another person how they are feeling. We can show our hearts in this case by just listening with an empathetic ear.
Many of the feelings of loss and grief are complicated. They can range from anger to sorrow to fear and to regret. It can be hard to hear grief out loud, and we might be tempted to try to counter what our grieving friend or extended family member is saying by, in essence, disagreeing with how they feel and what they are saying. This can make things so much worse.
What we need to do instead is step back and put ourselves in their shoes. What would we want someone to say to us if we were in the throes of grief and emotional turmoil? Something kind and understanding that comes from an empathetic and gentle heart would sooth our wounds of loss instead of aggravating them.
Another way to show and speak from our hearts is not to disappear after a few weeks of supporting and consoling our grieving friends or extended relatives. One way to disappear is not making the time to check in with them regularly to see how they’re doing. They may not be up to in-person visits, but we can text or call them to let them know we care about them.
Another way to disappear is more subtle, but also much more hurtful. This disappearance consists of being impatient with our friends’ or extended relatives’ grief by essentially telling them that it’s time to move on and get over it. If you want to damage, or possibly destroy, a relationship, this is a sure way to begin the process.
Grieving takes time, and no two people grieve openly – grief, in some shape or form, lasts the rest of ife – the exact same way or for the same amount of time. It takes a lot of patience sometimes to listen to some of our friends and extended family members say the same things and express the same feelings over and over for an extended period of time.
But this is a part of healing and we need to affirm the validity that they are feeling these things and give them a safe and supportive environment to work out their grieving, no matter how long it takes. That’s friendship and that’s love.
For more information about grief resources as part of Cleveland, OH cremation services, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit our funeral home at 2165 E. 89th Street, Cleveland, OH 44106, or you can call us today at (216) 791-0770.