Funerals at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH can be very stressful, but there are some important ways that some of the stress can be reduced. There will always be stress associated with funerals. There is the stress of losing someone we love, whether the death is expected or unexpected. There is the stress of the grieving process, which is at high intensity right out of the gate. There is the stress of all the activity that surrounds the funeral process, including accommodating out-of-town guests, planning the funeral, and in many cases, either the expectation of or the materialization of family drama. That’s a lot of stress.
However, there are some things that we can do to mitigate some of the stress.
It’s important to remember that even in an emergency situation, which a funeral is, we have more time than we think we have. One of the biggest stressors surrounding a loved one’s death is planning and arranging a funeral in a very short period of time. While it’s true that there are certain things that need to be done rather quickly after someone dies, there’s still more flexibility in the schedule that we might think.
For example, if your loved one is going to be having an underground burial, but it will take several days for all the family members to arrive, the funeral home is able to plan for that and accommodate that within reason. In the case of cremation, memorial services can be held any time after the cremation. That may be days, weeks, months, or even a year or more later. So take a deep breath and figure out what needs to be done immediately and what can wait.
Another way to reduce the stress of funerals is to talk about them before they happen. Even though in Western culture, we avoid talking about death if at all possible, if the family talks about and plans for the funeral of a loved one before they die – or the loved one themselves talks about and plans for their own funeral – then it’s just a matter of setting the plan in motion. There will still be stress with doing this, but the stress of having to figure out all the little details and wondering if we’re doing what are loved one would’ve wanted is eliminated.
We need to understand that talking about and planning for funerals in advance, whether for ourselves or for a loved one, is not the same as giving up on them. Somehow, our society has been conditioned to believe that once you talk about someone’s death, then you’ve thrown your hands up and given up on their lives, which is tantamount to just not doing anything else for them. Where this idea came from is a mystery, talking about death and planning for death is not abandoning our own lives or the lives of somebody we love.
Another way to reduce funeral stress is to embrace the idea of death as a natural process. Hospice care organizations provide end-of-life support so that people who are dying can die comfortably at home surrounded by the people they love. Dying in a hospital is unnatural to us and all the sounds and the activity that often accompanies death can create a lot more stress.
Again, having hospice care at home is still stressful. However, it is less stressful in the long run, because everybody’s at home, including our dying loved one, and a peaceful (hopefully) and comfortable environment.
For more ways to reduce funeral stress at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit our funeral home at 25900 Emery Road, Warrensville Heights, OH 44123, or you can call us today at (216) 831-7906.