Part of the funeral process at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH includes getting a tombstone or memorial to place at your gravesite or the gravesite of a loved one. Much of what happens during the funeral process are established rituals that can include some originality, but don’t stray too far from the predictive pattern.
There is the visitation, followed by the funeral service. Then there is the graveside service, followed by burial. And then some sort of reception or meal for the mourners after the graveside service.
Each of these parts of the funeral process has a format that doesn’t vary a whole lot, although some of the internal things may be more creative and original. Your tombstone or the tombstone of a loved one is a blank piece of marble or granite that is a canvas upon which you can leave your mark for future generations.
So what would you want your tombstone to say? Vince Gill, a country music artist, wrote a song about a husband who routinely cheated on his wife by going to bars, taking his wedding ring off and putting it in his pocket, and giving the appearance of being single and available. Gill predicts that the man will be caught and killed by a jealous husband or boyfriend, and the epithet on the cheater’s tombstone would read, “Here iies a rich man with a pocket full of gold.”
While none of us would want that kind of tombstone or memorial epithet, we all can think of that one last thing we might want to say after we’re dead. Of course, if we don’t choose our epithets, our family members might get the pleasure of giving us our last words.
A few examples of real epithets on tombstones can show us how creative some people can get and how tombstones can be used, even if inadvertantly. On R. Andersen’s (who was clearly a computer guy) tombstone, the epithet is, “Connection reset by peer. He came, he saw, he logged out.” Another memorial placed for George Johnson, who died in 1882, reads, “Here lies George Johnson. Hanged by mistake. 1882. He was right. We was wrong. But we strung him up, and now he’s gone.”
When a husband dies young, and leaves a young widow, a tombstone might be a matchmaking tool. Consider the tombstone of Jared Bates: “Sacred to the memory of Jared Bates. His widow, age 24, lives at 7 Elm Street. Has every qualification for a good wife and yearns to be comforted.” When the wife of a monument maker dies, the tombstone can be a marketing tool for the family business: “Here lies Jane Smith, wife of Thomas Smith, Marble cutter. This monument erected by her husband as a tribute to her memory. Monuments of this style are 250 dollars.”
Tombstones and memorials are not just rectangular, round, or tall pieces of granite or marble anymore. For example, in a rural church cemetery in northeast Tennessee, where most of the residents are farmers, a tombstone for a lifelong farmer and his wife depicts the family farm in vivid colors on a black background, and the epithet is, “Always Home.”
Other tombstones are being custom-designed to look like electric guitars, teddy bears, or favorite flowers. Scenes are often now painted on tombstones, with a smooth finish applied to the marble or granite. One couple had a tombstone built that was a life-size replica of a Mercedes Benz. The work took two years and the cost was over $250,000.
If you’d like to know more about tombstone customization at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit us at our funeral home at 25900 Emery Rd., Warrensville Heights, OH 44123, or you can call us today at (216) 831-7906.