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Good End of Life Care Leads to Happy Memories

Before funerals at funeral homes in Bedford Heights, OH, good end of life care may make our memories of our loved ones’ lives much happier. The Madame Curie charity (a UK organization that provides support for terminally ill patients and their families) done extensive research on end-of-life care. They found that more than 33% of the people surveyed believed that inadequate or poor end of life care diminished the good memories they had of their loved ones.

About 20% of the people who were surveyed, believed that better end-of-life care would have helped them remember their loved ones with happier memories.

Four-fifths of the people who were surveyed saw a direct correlation between their happy memories of their loved ones and the good and positive end of life care. These same people believed that because their loved ones received great end of life care, they themselves were better able to go through the grieving process after their loved ones were gone.

This research indicates that how well our loved ones are taken care of by hospice or hospital organizations while they’re dying is interwoven with how positively we remember their entire lives. This research also seems to suggest that even in relationships that were not particularly easy, better memories of the relationship emerged if the loved one received a good end of life care.

Losing your loved one is a traumatic and life-changing event. You will be overwhelmed with many strong emotions before your loved one dies. These emotions will intensify after your loved one dies. If your loved one’s end of life care was poor or inadequate and it didn’t serve your loved one and you well, that can have detrimental effects on how you remember your loved one.

If you find yourself getting angry each time you think about the last few weeks, days, hours of your loved one’s life because the hospice group or hospital staff was inattentive or even negligent, then it’s more likely that you will have more negative memories about your loved one’s entire life.

With the right care and support, the dying process can be calm and peaceful. And it should be that way. However, the reality is that not all hospice agencies and hospitals are equal, and while some of them provide fantastic care and support, others do not.

One of the most frustrating situations you can find yourself and your dying loved one in is when acute home health care (right after a hospital stay), palliative home health care (continuous care when acute care is no longer need and until hospice care is needed) and hospice care (end of life care) units are within the same organization, but they operate independently of each other.

The acute and palliative home health care could be excellent, but the hospice care might be awful, or vice versa. It’s imperative to know that you have, as an advocate for your loved one, the right (and responsibility) to fire any care group that isn’t providing excellent care and replaces them with a care group that will.

The last days of your loved one’s life are important. You should make sure that they have the best care available, not only for their sake but also for yours and the memories you will be left with when your loved one is gone.

If you’d like to learn about funeral planning at funeral homes in Bedford Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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Understanding Death

Funerals at funeral homes in Cleveland Heights, OH are held after someone dies. However, there are several kinds of death that can occur before people are officially declared dead.

One type of death is brain death. If there is no neurological activity at all, then a person is declared brain dead (this, in medical terms, is considered as being legally dead). But even though there is no neurological activity in a person, modern technology and medicine can still keep the body alive without the person’s brain functioning at all. That means that a body without brain activity can be kept alive for a long time with artificial means.

Although it’s unusual for people who are brain dead to be kept on life support for an extended period of time, it is very common for people who have suffered brain death to be kept alive for a short period of time, especially if they are organ donors.

This kind of life support is necessary to keep the organs healthy until all the organ transplants can be arranged. Once all the organ transplants are arranged, the person who is brain dead is then taken off life support, and the organs are harvested for transport to the designated recipients.

Another type of death is circulatory death. Circulatory death happens when the heart stops beating, and blood stops circulating in the body to vital organs, including the brain (brain death can actually be the result of circulatory death).

Circulatory death is more commonly known as cardiac arrest and, unless a person has a Do Not Resuscitate (DNR) order in place, emergency responders or hospital staff will try to get their heart beating again, using one or all of these methods: CPR, adrenaline, and electric shock.

The more time that passes when the heart is stopped, the more likely that brain damage or brain death will happen. Most medical experts say that six minutes is the maximum amount of time the heart can be stopped before damage to the brain starts.

If a person’s heart is restarted before the brain dies completely, then significant brain damage has happened. This results in the person who was revived being in a persistent vegetative state.

A persistent vegetative state is defined as “chronic wakefulness without awareness.” People who are in a persistent vegetative state are legally considered to be alive even though their brains are dead, so unless they have living wills that dictate that they don’t want any extraordinary medical measures taken, they will be given feeding tubes and ventilators to be kept alive.

A very famous case of someone being in a persistent vegetative state is that of Karen Ann Quinlan.

In April 1975, Quinlan went on a very restrictive diet to try to fit into a new dress that she had purchased. A couple of weeks after starting the diet, on April 15, 1975, Quinlan, who had not eaten any food for two days, went to a friend’s birthday party at a local bar in Byram Township, New Jersey. While there, she consumed a few gin and tonics and took Valium.

Shortly afterward, Quinlan felt weak and dizzy, so her friends took her home and put her to bed. When her friends checked on her fifteen minutes later, Quinlan was not breathing.

Emergency services were called and paramedics began to try to revive Quinlan. While she regained normal skin color and resumed breathing, Quinlan was still unresponsive.

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Quinlan was admitted to Newton Memorial Hospital in a comatose state. Because her brain had been deprived of oxygen for at least 20 minutes, the damage was irreversible, and Quinlan was in a persistent vegetative state.

Quinlan’s parents wanted their daughter removed from the ventilator, but the Morris County prosecutor threatened to charge the hospital with homicide if they removed the ventilator. Quinlan’s parents sued in September 1975 to have the ventilator removed, but their request was denied by a New Jersey Superior Court judge.

Finally, in 1976, the New Jersey Supreme Court ruled that Quinlan’s ventilator could be removed. However, Quinlan’s parents had not requested that her feeding tube be removed, so Quinlan lived for nine more years until June 1985, when she died from respiratory failure.

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You Need a Cleaner When You Die

Before funerals at funeral homes in Bedford, OH, you need to enlist a cleaner (someone you trust and who is technically adept) to clean your physical house and clean your digital house to eliminate anything that might create problems after your death.

This cleaner is not your run-of-the-mill cleaner. Their job is to go through closets, dresser drawers, medicine cabinets, office desks, etc. and remove anything that could cause potential problems with your family members. They are tasked with destroying everything they remove that you direct them to destroy.

This person is also responsible for cleaning your digital house. Every time you do anything online, you leave behind traces of data. These are known as crumbs, and they stay around years after you leave them.

You may not have any particularly incriminating or embarrassing crumbs of data in your online past. If you do, then you’ll definitely want to get those cleaned up before you die. But crumbs of data give other people too much information about you, and if that information should fall into the wrong hands then you could be a target for some kind of fraudulent activity.

Additionally, most of us have been online for 20 or more years. What you left behind 20 or more years ago may not reflect anything about you now. So, you will want to clean up the old you before you die (this is common advice to college graduates who are looking for employment and who have social media accounts that are 10 or 15 years old, and which may not show them in the most flattering light to potential employers).

In the same way that you wouldn’t want old love letters or other very personal things read by other people, you don’t want to leave that kind of information in your digital house when you die.

The four reasons that you need to clean your physical house and your digital house are to ensure that you have not left anything that is dangerous, that is illegal, that is embarrassing, or that is secret.

Dangerous things in your physical house include things like prescription medications that would pose a potential safety threat to other people. These would include things like painkillers, antidepressants, and anxiety medication.

Illegal items in your physical house are things that are not allowed under federal, state, or local laws and which could get you arrested.

Embarrassing things in your physical house include anything that you wouldn’t display in the open when you have friends and family members over.

There may be embarrassing things in your digital house as well. These would include pictures posted on social media, pictures on your smartphone, text messages, social media posts, and emails you wouldn’t want everyone to see.

Embarrassing things don’t necessarily have to be anything racy. But they could be things that are offensive to others or that demean others.

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Secret things in your physical house could include family information, such as a previous marriage that no one knew about or adoption that no one knew about, private affiliations with groups that are secretive by nature, or affiliations with groups that your family and friends would find offensive, or relationships that your family and friends know nothing about.

Your cleaner must have access to both your physical house and your digital house. This means they need to have keys to get into your physical house and passwords to get into your digital house.

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Leading Causes of Death in the United States

Many funerals at funeral homes in Bedford Heights, OH are the result of one of the leading causes of death in the United States. Despite being a nation that should have the benefits that lead to better health – and more natural lifespans and causes of death – much of access to those benefits is unequal or unattainable.

The top cause of death in America is heart disease. Heart disease accounts for almost 650,000 (or about 23%) of American deaths each year. Of these heart-related deaths, about two-thirds are from coronary artery disease (a condition in which the major blood vessels of the heart become damaged or diseased).

Risk factors for developing heart disease include a family history of heart disease, obesity, and smoking. Men are more likely to develop heart disease than women and people over the age of 55 are more susceptible to developing heart disease.

You can lower your risk of developing heart disease by making lifestyle changes. These include eating a healthier diet, exercising at least two and a half hours a week, losing weight, and abstaining from smoking.

The second most common cause of death in the United States is cancer. Almost 600,000 (or almost 22%) Americans die each year from cancer. Although each type of cancer has specific risk factors associated with it, the are some common risk factors that make developing any kind of cancer more likely.

These include a family history of cancer, obesity, tobacco use (smoking, chewing, dipping, etc.), excessive exposure to sunlight or radiation, and chronic inflammation. The genesis of all cancers is tumors (which may be benign or may become malignant), which develop when normal cells in your body start replicating in a rapid and uncontrolled manner.

Although there are no sure ways to avoid developing cancer, there are some things that you can do to lessen your risk. One way is to eat a healthy diet (eliminate highly-processed and high-fat/high-salt/high-sugar foods and replace them with whole grains, nuts, fresh vegetables, and fresh fruits).

Other ways are to avoid too much exposure to the sun, exercise on a regular basis, drink alcohol in moderation, and eliminate tobacco products.

The third most common cause of American deaths is accidents. Accidents are unintentional injuries. Death from accidents occurs when those unintentional injuries are so severe that life can’t be sustained. More than 160,000 (or almost 6%) people in the United States die each year as the result of accidents.

Men are much more likely to die in accidents, as are people under 45, and people who work in high-risk professions (such as manufacturing, construction, law enforcement, and careers that require a lot of driving).

Accidents result in over 28 million emergency department visits in the United States on an annual basis. Deaths from accidents are most commonly from unintentional falls, unintentional poisoning, and traffic collisions.

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While not all accidents can be prevented, some can be. Carelessness is often a reason why accidents occur. Therefore, to help prevent accidents from happening, you should exercise proper precautions for whatever you’re doing all the time.

Follow safety rules or guidelines (such as wearing a seatbelt while you are traveling in a vehicle) proactively to protect yourself as best you can from being the victim of an accident or dying as the result of an accident.

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When Your Loved One Dies

Before cremations as part of cremation services offered in Cleveland, OH, there are several things that you and your family will need to do as soon as possible after your loved one dies.

The first thing that you will need to do after your loved one dies is to obtain a legal pronouncement of death. If your loved one died in a hospital, the medical staff pronounce them die and note the time when they died. However, if your loved one died at home and was not under hospice care, then you should call emergency services. Your loved one will be transported to the hospital where they will be legally pronounced dead.

If your loved one was in hospice care at home, then the hospice care agency should be called. A medical professional from the hospice agency will come to your home and they will pronounce your loved one’s death. They will also prepare your loved one’s body for transportation to the funeral home and will notify the funeral home when your loved one is ready to be taken to the funeral home.

If your loved one is an organ donor and is admitted to the hospital during the final days of their illness or is in the process of dying when they are admitted to the hospital, make sure that the hospital knows they are an organ donor. Organ transplants can take up to 48 hours to arrange, so hospital personnel needs to be able to take appropriate action the maintain organ viability while those transplants are being set up.

If your loved one is an organ donor and died at home, but was not under hospice care, contact the closest hospital to let them know and be sure to let first responders also know. If your loved one was in hospice care at home and is an organ donor, make sure to remind the hospice agency when you contact them.

Next, you’ll need to contact immediate family and close friends to let them know your loved one has died. The most personal way to do this is with phone calls, although some families are okay with texts or emails. Assign each family member there a group of people to notify, so that you’re not doing all the notifications by yourself. Do not announce the death on social media until everyone who needs to know about death has been personally contacted.

The next thing that will be done is arrangements made with the funeral home for transporting your loved one’s body. The hospital will make these arrangements if your loved one died in the hospital or was pronounced dead at the hospital. If your loved one was in-home hospice care, the responding hospice medical professional will make these arrangements.

After these things have been done, you will need to make sure pets and dependents, if applicable, are cared for. Usually, family members will ensure sure that all dependents and pets have a place to stay temporarily until long-term plans can be formulated.

If your loved one lived by themselves, be sure that all of their property is secured. If you are able, have a family member or close friend stay at their home until a time when decisions can be made about what to do with the property (keep it or sell it).

If your loved one who has died was still working, you will need to let their employer’s Human Resources department know that they have died. Be sure to remember to ask about any pay your loved one is still owed, any benefits that they are entitled to, and whether they had a life insurance policy through their employer.

For information about cremation services in Cleveland, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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Be Prepared for the End of Life

Before funerals at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH, being prepared for the end of life is something that everyone should make a priority. While some people prepare for the end of their lives before the onset of aging and/or poor health, many people do not.

If you don’t prepare for the end of your life, then you place a heavy burden on your family. They will have to make decisions based on what they think you might have wanted, and that creates a lot of unnecessary stress for them, as they are also working to give you care and be there for you.

If you don’t have a will or living trust, for example, your estate will go into probate. What that means is that all of your assets – bank accounts, retirement accounts, property, etc. – will be frozen and no one (unless a family member also has access to them by being on the accounts or co-owner) can touch them until the court says so.

Having your estate goes into probate will create financial hardships for your family. You might have outstanding financial obligations that they can’t pay. In addition, if you don’t have a will, then the courts, not you, will decide how your estate is divided among your surviving family members.

If you don’t have a medical power of attorney in place, then there will be no one you trust to advocate on your behalf in medical matters if you are not able to advocate for yourself. This may mean that even though your family members know what you want in terms of medical care because you don’t have a legal document that gives them the right to enforce your wishes, you may receive the medical care you don’t want or, perhaps, even need.

If you don’t have a living will, then medical professionals are bound to take all measures necessary to keep you alive if you are dying, whether that is what you want or not.

If you have these, then you’ve made a good start. But there are other things you need to consider when preparing for the end of life.

One of these things is to make a palliative care plan. Palliative care is the middle step between home health care (after an acute illness) and hospice care (death is imminent). Palliative care offers all the same services like home health care, except that nurse visits are cut down to once a week.

Another thing you need to do to prepare for the end of your life is to document all your online account information (websites, usernames and passwords, WiFi passwords, bank account numbers and PINs, medical IDs, and insurance policy numbers).

While many smartphones offer fingerprint access to unlock the phones, if you choose this method your survivors will not be able to unlock your phone after your death. It’s wiser to choose a numeric pin so that they will be able to retrieve contacts, voicemails, and text messages.

Documenting your online presence will help family members who will be managing your online presence (social media, blogs, etc.), online banking, financial assets, and businesses that are online. You can use a free password manager to manage all of these.

Finally, you should plan your funeral. You can either write out the details of what you want at your funeral or you can visit with your funeral home and do the preplanning for your funeral with them. This will be a great gift to your loved ones who don’t have to grieve your death and try to plan your funeral as well.

If you’d like to learn more about preparing for funerals at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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Planning a Funeral for a Military Veteran

Some of the funerals at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH are for men and women who have bravely and proudly served in the armed forces of the United States to protect and defend our country. Whether they served in the military for just one tour or they served many years and retired, military veterans are entitled to funeral benefits when they die.

If your deceased loved one is a military veteran, they are entitled to free burial at a national cemetery. Your funeral home will make all the arrangements for the burial with the local Department of Veterans Affairs.

A free grave marker will be placed on your loved one’s gravesite, and military honors will be presented. If you are a spouse or dependent of the deceased military veteran, you are also entitled to free burial in the same national cemetery as well.

Military honors consist of the presentation of the American flag to a family member during the funeral service or graveside service by military personnel or by a local veterans organization. Military honors also include a 21-gun salute and the playing of “Taps.”

Your funeral director will ensure that all these arrangements are made in advance of the funeral service or graveside service so that everything that you want to make sure that your deceased loved one’s military service to the United States is highlighted and honored is done flawlessly.

There are also some other services out of the Department of Veterans Affairs that your funeral director can have in place at your loved one’s funeral or graveside service. One of these is having the local chapter of the Patriot Guard Riders to provide an honor guard at your loved one’s funeral service or graveside service.

Patriot Guard Riders were formed in 2005 to protect deceased military veterans’ families from the Westboro Baptist Church protestors. These protesters began showing up at funerals for military veterans who had died during the Iraq and Afghanistan wars. They claimed these deaths of American service people were God’s retribution for America’s sins.

These protests were so disruptive and frightening that the Patriot Guard Riders took it upon themselves to literally form a human shield around the funerals of military veterans so that their families and other mourners could peacefully say goodbye to their loved ones.

While there are few such protests today at the funerals of military veterans, the Patriot Guard Riders continue to perform the service of being an honor guard at the funeral services for members of the armed forces.

They are also engaged in making sure that military veterans are welcomed home when they are returning from overseas duty and serving as volunteers in veterans organizations that support military personnel once they are back in the United States. They also have a charitable arm that helps military families who are in financial need.

If your deceased loved one is a military veteran, then you will need to bring their military separation papers (Form DD-214) to the funeral home when you meet with the funeral director to make funeral arrangements.

If for some reason, you don’t have their military discharge papers, you can go to the government’s Veterans’ Service Records page to request them. If your loved one served in the military between 1952 and 1969, the records may not be available online because of a major fire in the St. Louis archive building. However, your local Department of Veterans Affairs can help you locate the DD-214.

If you’d like to learn more about military funerals at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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After Death

After funerals at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH, it is not unusual, especially for people who’ve lost someone they’ve spent many years with, such as a spouse, to feel disoriented and lost and unsure of anything that lies ahead.

When two people spend so many years together, they still retain their individual identities, but their identity as a couple becomes the predominant identity they have and their lives merge in a way that becomes a whole.

The death of a spouse breaks that whole in half and erases the couple’s identity, leaving the surviving spouse feeling like the rug has been pulled out from under them. This is, in fact, exactly what has happened.

It won’t feel comfortable for a while and it may be a bewildering process to get used to being alone, being on your own, and being solely responsible for everything in and around your life again.

While you’ll not grieve the loss of your spouse, your soulmate, and your best friend, you can find a new – or discover some neglected pasts – journey forward after they die.

First, take the time to grieve and to adjust. Jumping right into busyness after the death of a spouse to avoid dealing with the reality of their death is very unhealthy. Instead of dealing with grief in a natural and normal way, you instead avoid grief by putting it on hold.

The problem with this is that grief never goes away – even when it does get easier – and by not dealing with it at the moment, you are ensuring that it will be even harder to deal with in the future when you can’t avoid it anymore.

So, what can you do to move forward as your new life without your loved one is something you realize is your new normal?

Think back to when you were younger, before you were married or before you had children. Did you have a passion or a hobby that you gradually moved away from in your new roles as a spouse and as a parent? It may be time to rediscover that passion or hobby or find a new one.

Many people find that hobbies and passions they enjoyed early in life bring them great solace and peace after the death of a loved one. However, you may find that you want to try a new hobby or learn something new to make a completely fresh start.

Another thing you can do is get involved in something meaningful that gives you a chance to give something to others. Volunteering is a great way to do this. There are many ways to volunteer in your community and to help and to serve other people.

Consider volunteering for a local charity or volunteering to help children or senior citizens. The act of service not only benefits others, but it can also be very fulfilling for you as you actively work to make a positive difference in other people’s lives.

Get active. No matter what age you are when you lose your loved one, there will be a way to get physically active. Even if you take a 30-minute walk every day around your neighborhood or at a public park, being physically active and being outdoors will give you both better health and a better sense of well-being.

If you’d like to learn more about what to do after death at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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Cemetery Etiquette

After funerals at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH, you will go to the cemetery to bury your loved one, and then, later, you will return to the cemetery regularly to visit their grave and the graves of other family members. But cemeteries have certain rules of respect that should be followed and not broken.

One of these rules of respect is that people don’t go to the cemetery except during its posted hours. While some cemeteries are open all the time to the public, others are gated and have posted opening hours when the gates will be open (usually this is sunrise to sunset).

There is, quite frankly, no reason for anyone to be in a cemetery for any legitimate reason except during daylight hours. But, if you have a special reason for visiting the cemetery, and you can’t make it during the daylight on the day you want to go (a wedding anniversary, a death anniversary, a birthday, or another significant day), then wait until the next closest time when you can visit the cemetery during the day.

Another rule of respect for cemeteries is not to speed through them. Some cemeteries are small enough that they simply have a parking lot where you can park and then walk into and around the cemetery. Other cemeteries, however, are very large, and they have roads in them to enable visitors to drive up to or near the grave(s) they want to visit.

Leaving glass items on your loved one’s grief is something else that you shouldn’t do in a cemetery. If they get blown over or knocked over, they can break and present a hazard for other visitors to the cemetery.

A rule of respect that should also be observed is not leaning or sitting on grave headstones or memorials. In many cemeteries that have been around for a very long time, some of the ground has shifted around these monuments so that they can easily be turned over with the slightest amount of pressure.

While the original purpose of cemeteries in the United States was to promote spending family time together in beautiful outdoor spaces – i.e., public parks – and that often included playing games or having a picnic, times have changed and so has acceptable cemetery etiquette. It is considered now to be disrespectful to the dead to bring the family and a picnic lunch to eat in a cemetery.

Knowing what kind of photography is acceptable in cemeteries is also a matter of cemetery etiquette. While a new trend of hiring funeral photographers is emerging, with the photographer capturing moments of mourning throughout the funeral process (including in the cemetery), it is not respectful to photograph mourners in a cemetery without their explicit permission or invitation. It is, however, perfectly acceptable to photograph gravesites in a cemetery, since this can often be an interesting photographic record of families through time.

Another rule of respect in a cemetery is not to remove anything from any of the gravesites unless you are a family member whose job it does that. Families often put flowers, cards, and stuff animals on their loved ones’ graves to commemorate a special day or anniversary, and they often come back a day or two later to find that everything they placed at the gravesite has been taken. They can often feel the same violation as if someone broke into their homes or their cars and stole things from them because graves are the same as personal property.

If you’d like to learn more about cemetery etiquette at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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Letting People Know Your Loved One Has Died

One thing that funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH will help you with is letting people know that your loved one has died. They will do this in the form of an obituary. However, your loved one’s obituary may not appear until several days after their death, so you still have the task of letting some people know immediately that they’ve died.

When a loved one dies, there is a hierarchy of immediacy in letting people know that they’ve died. Immediate family members who aren’t present when they die and close friends are the first groups who need to know. Next, you’ll want to let other family members, casual friends, and their employer (if your loved one was still working) know. Finally, you can announce it generally to everyone.

You don’t do all these notifications on the day your loved one dies. Immediate family members and close friends should be the only notifications you do on that day. If you have people who can help you with these notifications, it will be easier for everyone all the way around.

How do you notify immediate family members and close friends? Traditional funeral etiquette says that you should notify them with a phone call, but that may not be possible or feasible.

While sending text messages and emails are still considered to be impersonal ways of letting people know that your loved one has died, they may be your best option for a very important reason. It is unlikely that you’re going to feel like talking or even be able to talk very much immediately after your loved one dies.

If you make a phone call, one of the questions that you will be asked is “How are you doing?” The truth is you don’t know and you may just sit on the phone and cry. This is not only uncomfortable, but it also can be exhausting if you have to do it with several people in a row.

There are a few phone calls you will have to make because you have to. You’ll know who those people are. But, to control your end of the conversation without having to expend a lot of energy, you can send text messages or emails to everyone else.

Be sure to send text messages individually or to group email by blind copying all the recipients of the email. Not only does this protect everyone’s privacy, but it also gives a more personal touch to your notification about your loved one’s death.

Once you’ve sent the text messages or emails, you may have some people call right away or text or email back right away. You don’t have to answer right away. Put the phone away and take care of what needs to be done with your loved one and the funeral home and yourself and your family.

You can assign immediate family members to do the rest of the family, casual friend, and employer notifications. If your loved one has died on the weekend, their employer’s HR department should be called when the business opens on Monday morning (unless they work for a business that’s open 7 days a week). Be sure to ask about any pay that may be owed, benefits available, and any life insurance your loved one may have had.

Once the funeral home has the obituary published, then you can share that through email or social media with everyone else (do not share the news of someone else’s loved one’s death on social media until a member of the family has done so).

If you’d like to learn more about death notifications at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.