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Letting People Know Your Loved One Has Died

One thing that funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH will help you with is letting people know that your loved one has died. They will do this in the form of an obituary. However, your loved one’s obituary may not appear until several days after their death, so you still have the task of letting some people know immediately that they’ve died.

When a loved one dies, there is a hierarchy of immediacy in letting people know that they’ve died. Immediate family members who aren’t present when they die and close friends are the first groups who need to know. Next, you’ll want to let other family members, casual friends, and their employer (if your loved one was still working) know. Finally, you can announce it generally to everyone.

You don’t do all these notifications on the day your loved one dies. Immediate family members and close friends should be the only notifications you do on that day. If you have people who can help you with these notifications, it will be easier for everyone all the way around.

How do you notify immediate family members and close friends? Traditional funeral etiquette says that you should notify them with a phone call, but that may not be possible or feasible.

While sending text messages and emails are still considered to be impersonal ways of letting people know that your loved one has died, they may be your best option for a very important reason. It is unlikely that you’re going to feel like talking or even be able to talk very much immediately after your loved one dies.

If you make a phone call, one of the questions that you will be asked is “How are you doing?” The truth is you don’t know and you may just sit on the phone and cry. This is not only uncomfortable, but it also can be exhausting if you have to do it with several people in a row.

There are a few phone calls you will have to make because you have to. You’ll know who those people are. But, to control your end of the conversation without having to expend a lot of energy, you can send text messages or emails to everyone else.

Be sure to send text messages individually or to group email by blind copying all the recipients of the email. Not only does this protect everyone’s privacy, but it also gives a more personal touch to your notification about your loved one’s death.

Once you’ve sent the text messages or emails, you may have some people call right away or text or email back right away. You don’t have to answer right away. Put the phone away and take care of what needs to be done with your loved one and the funeral home and yourself and your family.

You can assign immediate family members to do the rest of the family, casual friend, and employer notifications. If your loved one has died on the weekend, their employer’s HR department should be called when the business opens on Monday morning (unless they work for a business that’s open 7 days a week). Be sure to ask about any pay that may be owed, benefits available, and any life insurance your loved one may have had.

Once the funeral home has the obituary published, then you can share that through email or social media with everyone else (do not share the news of someone else’s loved one’s death on social media until a member of the family has done so).

If you’d like to learn more about death notifications at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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Social Distancing and Virtual Funerals

Virtual funerals at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH is a product of the current COVID-19 pandemic that has most of America under stay at home orders, unable to attend gatherings with more than 10 people present, and practicing social distancing by keeping at least six feet of distance between us.

COVID-19 has disrupted the funeral traditions and rituals that are designed to help provide us with a safe and comforting space to mourn, surrounded by people who love us, care for us, and encourage us. One of those funeral traditions is the viewing/visitation followed by a funeral service.

Funeral homes are regulated by the same guidelines as the rest of the United States. However, if they allow gatherings of more than 10 people in the funeral home or do not practice and/or enforce proper social distancing rules outside, they can face hefty fines and the potential of losing their license to operate.

However, the current limitations of social distancing can be hard on both the grieving family and the funeral home because the viewing/visitation and funeral service are at the core of the funeral process for funeral homes and are a centerpiece of the beginning of closure for the family who has lost a loved one.

One innovative way that funeral homes are adapting the family visitation ritual is to have a drive-through visitation. The bereaved family will line up outside the funeral home entrance and, one car at a time, mourners can drive up, roll down their windows, and offer their sympathy and condolences at a safe distance from the family.

Some funeral homes have offered video recordings of funeral services or live streamed funeral services for several years. But not all funeral homes have the technology to do these kinds of funeral services.

Families and friends, though, are stepping in to help fill in the gap. With computer applications that allow free live video meetings where anywhere from 50 to 100 people can attend simultaneously or even free live streaming, virtual funerals (and graveside services) are now being held all over the country.

While having a virtual funeral service or graveside service feels different – because it is different – than having a live service with people in attendance, it is better than the alternative of having no service for your deceased loved one.

Many people are opting for virtual funeral or graveside services for their deceased loved ones now, with the plan for a full, attended service in the future when the COVID-19 restrictions are lifted. This might be a great plan for you and your family if you’re saying goodbye to a loved one now.

To hold a virtual funeral or graveside service, all you need is a smartphone, tablet, or laptop and one of these applications to stream the service.

FaceTime is a great application, but it is available only to iPhone users (Android smartphones can’t connect).

For the most connectivity, you have several choices. One of the easiest is Facebook Messenger’s video chat. Up to 50 people can join at a time and you get a private way to virtually share your loved one’s funeral or graveside service.

Although Zoom has reported privacy issues, they are only with recorded videostreaming (and the company is rushing to fix this), not livestreaming. The free version of Zoom allows up to 100 people to attend your virtual funeral or graveside service. The only limitation that may present a problem is that the free version of Zoom has a maximum time limit of 40 minutes.

If you’d like to learn more about virtual funerals at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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Paying for Funerals

There are many ways to offset the cost of funerals at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH. Funerals, like everything else in the American economy, cost more now than they used to. However, there are many ways to offset or get help with paying for funerals that you may not be aware of.

The easiest and smartest way to help pay for a funeral is by preplanning. That is something that you can do today to prepare for tomorrow. Preplanning for a funeral – and keeping it affordable – can be done using one of the following methods:

  • Burial or Funeral Insurance – Burial or funeral insurance policies are designed specifically to pay for funeral expenses. Burial insurance policies are generally small-dollar-amount ($5,000 to $25,000) policies with affordable monthly rates that can be used to pay all your funeral expenses.

These do not require a medical exam, but most of these policies have a period of one to three years of having the burial insurance before payouts will be made.

  • Life Insurance – Life insurance policies often have a higher dollar value because they’re intended to provide support for survivors after the policyholder dies. A portion of a life insurance policy can be used to pay for funeral expenses.

Life insurance policies always require a medical exam. The premiums for life insurance policies are higher for people who are older and/or who have underlying medical conditions, such as cardiac problems, diabetes, or high blood pressure.

Premiums for whole-life life insurance policies are much higher than for term life insurance policies, but whole-life life insurance policies are in effect until you die, while term life insurance policies must be renewed – with premium increases – every set number of years (usually every 10 years).

  • Payable-on-Death Bank Account – Payable-on-death bank accounts are an excellent way to set aside funds for your funeral. They are easy to set up and you can designate the funeral home as the beneficiary or one of your surviving family members with the instructions that the funds there are to be used to pay for your funeral expenses. Payable-on-death bank accounts are excluded from probate, so the funds are immediately available to your beneficiary when you die.

If you are in the position of having to pay for the funeral of a loved one who didn’t have a burial insurance policy, a life insurance policy, or a payable-on-death bank account, there are other ways that you can offset their funeral expenses.

One popular method is fundraising. There are many ways that people look for to help a bereaved family and fundraising gives them a tangible way to help out. You can raise funds using several methods:

  • Car washes, bake sales or auctions – Many members of the community, as well as friends and family, will gladly participate in these fundraising activities, both to help with the fundraising event and to participate by buying what the fundraiser is offering.
  • Memorial funds – You can set up an account at your bank or at the deceased’s workplace where people can send checks or use a payment system like PayPal to donate funds toward funeral expenses.
  • Crowdfunding – Crowdfunding sites like GoFundMe.com are specifically designed for things like raising money to pay for funeral expenses. You can easily set up a GoFundMe page for your deceased loved one where people can donate online. Be aware that crowdfunding sites often keep a small percentage of the money that’s raised.
  • Social media – Social media is a great way to let a large number of people know that you’re raising money for your loved one’s funeral expenses. Be sure, however, to have a payment account like PayPal or a crowdfunding page already set up so that you can give that information in your social media post. Do not include any personal or financial information on social media.

If you’d like to learn more about preplanning funerals at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit us at our funeral home at 2165 E 89th St., Cleveland, OH 44106, or you can call us today at (216) 791-0770.

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Online Grief Resources

Funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH offer many grief resources to family members who have lost a loved within. With deep roots in the community, the funeral home has relationships with grief support groups, grief counselors, and other community-based grief resources.

Grief over the death of a loved one is a normal process that each of us must inevitably experience during our lives. Grieving can be different for everyone. Some people grieve longer than others. Some people grieve harder than others. Some people struggle to know what to do with their grief and how to get past it.

It’s important not to let anyone else tell you that there is a right and wrong way to grieve. There isn’t. It’s also important, though, that if grief feels too heavy to bear on your own or it seems like it will never go away, that you consider getting some additional grief support.

What you may need in grief support is as unique as your grieving process. Some people find talking about their feelings and emotions in a group of grieving people very helpful and therapeutic. Other people struggle to find a vocabulary for their grief and feel uncomfortable talking about personal feelings and experiences in a roomful of people with whom they have no previous connection.

Even with one-on-one grief counseling, some people may find it very easy and helpful, while other people may find it difficult and frustrating. So, be patient with yourself and explore all the resources for grief that are available until you find something that works for you.

Some people prefer online group resources because they can find advice and support without necessarily having to interact with other people. When and if they do interact, they often feel more comfortable in the anonymity of being online instead of being face to face, which can often allow them to be more open and honest in participating.

One of the greatest benefits of online grief resources is that you can, with the click of a mouse to close a browser, “walk away” when you’ve had enough or are overwhelmed without anyone else knowing. And you can go back the same way when you’re feeling emotionally and mentally ready.

Here is a list of online grief resources that you might find helpful in your journey through grief.

  • Resources for Survivors of Suicide – As the suicide rate continues to climb in the United States, especially among elderly people and middle-aged people, more and more family members are having to deal with the grieving aftermath. Sadly, suicide still carries such a stigma that it can be hard to find in-person grieving resources that provide a safe and comfortable environment for support. This website offers many different types of online resources that you can take advantage of as you work through the grief associated with the suicide of a loved one.
  • What’s Your Grief? – This website is dedicated to helping people handle all aspects of the grieving process. It has an email subscription feature that delivers weekly articles about grief and it has many online articles and blogs about what grief is, how grief works, and how to navigate the process of grief, especially at highly sensitive times such as death anniversaries, Mother’s and Father’s days, and wedding anniversaries.
  • National Child Traumatic Stress Network – Children who’ve experienced death through traumatic events, such as friends who’ve been bullied and committed suicide or school shootings, need special care and attention in the wake of these horrific incidents. This website is full of resources that can help.

If you’d like to learn more about grief resources at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help.

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Why We Grieve the Loss of Celebrities

There may not be many celebrity funerals at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH, but the common phenomenon of how we collectively grieve the loss of celebrities is one that we all participate in at one time or another.

While on the surface, it may not make sense that we grieve the death of someone we have never met and don’t personally know, it turns out that the loss we feel when someone who is famous dies is both real and rational.

When NBA superstar Kobe Bryant and his daughter Gianna were killed in a helicopter crash on January 26, 2020, Americans collectively mourned both their losses. Many Americans may have only known that Kobe Bryant was a good basketball player, having never actually seen him play the game. Other Americans whose interests were not sports-related may have only recognized Kobe Bryant’s name.

Yet the outpouring of grief for the deaths of the 41-year-old professional basketball player and his 13-year-old daughter who showed the promise of becoming a great basketball player in her own right was nationwide.

Why?

It has been suggested that well-known people, who are on display all the time, reveal parts of their inner selves to us – apart from their fame and their talent – and in those revelations, we see parts of ourselves reflected back.

Celebrities are often put on pedestals by the thing they excel at and by us. They seem larger than life. It seems as though they don’t have the everyday things, issues, and problems that we face to contend with.

However, there are always places in their lives where they reveal their similarities to us – their ordinariness and their life challenges – and, it is in those moments that we see their humanness and their likenesses to us. That forms a bond and a connection between them and us.

We feel like we know celebrities by these glimpses into their inner workings, even though we’ve never met them.

So, when celebrities die, we lose a part of our own identities to one degree or another, depending on their impact on our lives.

For example, while America mourned the loss of actor Kirk Douglas on February 5, 2020, some people who were big fans of his movies felt his death more keenly and felt a stronger sense of losing a part of their own identities than people who simply knew he was an actor, but never saw his movies.

Another thing that happens when we lose a celebrity who we felt strongly connected to is that their death represents a loss of a period of our lives when their impact was strongest on us. For example, Baby Boomers might have a bigger sense of loss when one of the music legends of the 1960s or 1970s dies, while Gen Xer’s may have a more profound reaction when a musician from the 1980s or 1990s dies.

So, when we grieve for the deaths of well-known people who made a big impression on our lives, we are also grieving for the loss of the small piece of ourselves that they occupied. And when we grieve the collective loss of celebrities that we knew about, but perhaps did not have much of a connection to, we are participating in communal grief that recognizes the loss of something special.

If you’d like to learn more about grief resources at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit us at our funeral home at 25900 Emery Rd., Warrensville Heights, OH 44123, or you can call us today at (216) 831-7906.

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Climate Change and Farmworker Deaths

There are funerals at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH for people who have experience working on farms. America, until the middle of the 20th century, still had a large number of family farms.

Many older people, who may have moved to urban areas for education and better-paying jobs in the industry, may have left farming communities where they knew what it was like to get up 365 days a year before the sun rose to tend to animals before going to school or heading out, during the late spring, summer, and early fall months to harvest crops as they ripen.

It was hot work in the summer months, but relief could be found under the canopy of a barn or an abundance of shade trees and in ice-cold water or soda during the day, and in homemade ice cream, churned the old-fashioned way, on the front porch at night.

While farm work during planting and harvesting seasons was long, dusty, and hot, the days were not as hot as many of those same days are now. The earth has been steadily getting warmer over the past several decades and it’s not unusual now for temperatures during the summer months to stay well above normal (with heat indexes driving the real-feel temperatures even higher) for long stretches of time.

If we work in offices, we may complain about the heat when we venture out during the day, but for the most part, we are in fairly comfortable temperatures most of the time, with thermostats set at 70 degrees or so. Then we get in our cars and adjust the air conditioning to a comfortable temperature. Finally, we walk into our homes where we turn on an air conditioning unit or a central HVAC system to keep our living spaces comfortable.

However, farmworkers spend their entire workdays outdoors in the sweltering heat. Often those workdays are from sunup to sundown, which can be as long as 15 or 16 hours in the western United States. Therefore, farmworkers’ lives are increasingly being jeopardized by prolonged exposure, with little or no relief, to excessive heat.

Heatstroke is one of the potentially fatal dangers that farmworkers face. Heatstroke occurs when the body overheats after extended exposure to high temperatures or after physical exertion in high temperatures.

This is the most dangerous type of heat injury that people can suffer, and it has a high fatality rate. If someone’s body temperature rises to 104 degrees or higher, then heatstroke can occur.

If the body can’t cool down or is unable to cool down fast enough, then death occurs.

Farmworkers are constantly faced with the threat of suffering heatstroke as they perform grueling labor under hotter and hotter summer skies. In addition to heatstroke, farmworkers also face other life-threatening risks from the heat.

One of these is chronic kidney disease, which can lead to kidney failure. This happens because farmworkers are performing strenuous labor, losing a lot of water through sweat, and not replacing it by drinking enough fluids.

Some larger farms have modified their work schedules so that farmworkers work at night instead of during the day. However, with climate change, nights have become much warmer than they used to be, so while the risk of heat-related illnesses and death is reduced some, it is not completely eliminated.

If you’d like to know how funeral homes in Cleveland, OH are helping our communities with cooling resources, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit us at our funeral home at 2165 E 89th St., Cleveland, OH 44106, or you can call us today at (216) 791-0770.

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How to Calm Fears About Death

Before funerals at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH, we may find that we are genuinely terrified about death and dying. Because those who’ve faced death and who have died before us can’t tell us about the experience, it remains a mystery that each of us will experience as a solitary event.

The fear of the unknown is a powerful force in humans, and death and dying are at the top of the unknowns we will face in our lifetimes. While we may watch loved ones as they die, we still don’t know exactly what they’re experiencing because we only see symptoms, not the actual internal process.

There are many rational aspects of death to think about. How will our loved ones fare after we’re gone? Will they be okay without us? Have we prepared for the process leading up to our death, the death itself, and for after we die so that our affairs are in order?

These are all things that we can take action to do something about now so we can eliminate those sources of worry.

However, many of our fears about death are based on how we imagine death to be, and those may not be in alignment with the reality of death and dying.

One of our fears about death may be about how painful it will be. However, most of us have experienced different levels of pain throughout our lives, and there is no reason to believe that any pain associated with death will be different. However, it is unlikely that we will actually be aware of pain.

There are two reasons for this. One reason is because comfort care, which is medical care that is provided to people who are dying, is specifically designed to very effectively manage pain during the dying process. The second reason is that, as the body begins its final shutdown, we go into a deep sleep state that is much like being under anesthesia and there is no sensation of pain.

Another thing that we might fear about death is the end of our consciousness – in effect, that part of us that makes us who we are and makes us human. However, because of the nature of death, we will not be aware of the end of our consciousness because it will not exist. In other words, we won’t be around to know that we’re not around.

Another fear that we may have about death is the sensation of being cremated or being buried. Most of us can’t imagine either one happening to us. But this fear is associated with our being present and conscious during the cremation or the burial. Since our consciousness will no longer exist, we will not be aware of anything, whether we choose to be buried or we choose to be cremated, so there is really no reason to be afraid of this.

A final fear that we may have about death is what will happen after we’re gone. We may fear for our loved one’s futures. We may fear that all of the things that we value will be sold or thrown away or not taken care of. But the reality is that we have no control over what happens after we die, so we should take that fear and set it aside, along with all the other fears about death.

If you’d like to learn about funerals at funeral homes in Warrensville Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit us at our funeral home at 25900 Emery Rd., Warrensville Heights, OH 44123, or you can call us today at (216) 831-7906.

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What is a Mausoleum?

When planning funerals at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH, you may be considering different funeral options. One of the options is mausoleums and you may not know much more about them than reading about them in a literature class.

Mausoleums, in simple terms, are above ground tombs. In fact, to be more precise, they are a room full of tombs that are above ground. So, you might ask why people would choose to be put into an above-ground grave rather than in an underground grave.

The most practical reason for being put into a mausoleum is that room for underground graves is running out. Cemeteries are near or at capacity, with either no more available land to expand or with the cost of buying additional land being prohibitive.

In mausoleums, graves can be stacked on top of each other and mausoleums are often built up in order to be able to accommodate a large number of graves without taking any more land space.

Another practical reason for being put into mausoleums is soil location and structure. In New Orleans, for example, the city itself is below sea level, which makes the soil unstable. When hurricanes or other heavy flooding events, such as the massive flooding of the Mississippi River in 1927, happen in New Orleans, there is always the risk of underground graves being unearthed and caskets floating away.

Mausoleums have a rich history. Among the first mausoleums ever built in the world were the Great Pyramids in Egypt, where royalty and other people who had prestige were entombed after they died.

Mausoleums got their name from an ancient ruler. King Mausolus, who ruled in what is now Asia Minor, his wife commissioned a building to be constructed where his remains could be entombed. The building, the Mausoleum of Halicarnassus, is considered one the Seven Wonders of the World.

Mausoleums not only hold entombed remains in caskets, but they also have columbarium niches where cremated remains can be stored. So, regardless of whether you decide to have your remains cremated or placed into a casket, you can be entombed or inurned inside a mausoleum.

It’s important to understand that burial refers not just to being put into an underground grave, but also can be used to refer to entombment in a mausoleum.

There are different types of mausoleums, and not all are available for general entombment or inurnment.

Private mausoleums are built exclusively for members of a single family to be entombed or inurned in. These are commonly known as custom mausoleums because many of them were or are constructed prior to anyone in the family dying. Private mausoleums may be built in a cemetery or they may be built on private land. Regardless of where they are located, the public may be prohibited from having any access to them.

In public mausoleums, on the other hand, as long as there is space available, anyone can be entombed or inurned there. These mausoleums are much larger than private mausoleums, and can often house hundreds of interments.

Since public mausoleums are like public cemeteries, anyone is able to go them and pay their respects to the deceased. One of the most famous examples of a public mausoleum is the Taj Mahal in India.

If you’d like to learn more about mausoleums at funeral homes in Cleveland, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit us at our funeral home at 2165 E 89th St., Cleveland, OH 44106, or you can call us today at (216) 791-0770.

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Streaming a Funeral Service Online

When you’re arranging funerals at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH, you may be worried about family members and close friends who live too far away or can’t afford to get to the funeral in person because you know they don’t want to miss being a part of the service.

Family members and close friends are equally worried because they want to be at the funeral and they can’t because they know how important participating in a funeral service is and how many regrets can happen when they have to miss it.

Having your loved one’s funeral service and then having the video uploaded to the funeral home’s website solves this problem on both sides. Using an internet connection, family members and close friends who can’t be there are able to participate in the funeral service live. If it’s held at a time when they are not able to participate live, they can watch the recorded video from the funeral home’s website when it’s convenient for them.

Live streaming funeral services and uploading the recordings to the funeral home website is a funeral service that began to be offered by a few funeral homes about 10 years ago. However, with a world that is connected and intertwined by technology, live streaming funeral services have become very popular in the last few years.

While it might seem that livestreamed funeral services are beneficial just for mourners who are unable to attend in person, the immediate family of the deceased can also reap great benefits from having the funeral service recorded and available from the funeral home’s website.

When you are having a funeral service for a loved one, you remember very little of the details because you are in shock, in the fog of grief, and overwhelmed emotionally. When you add a viewing or visitation and a steady stream of people coming through to pay their respects to your deceased loved one and to offer condolences and sympathy to you and your family, the whole experience can be very emotionally exhausting and somewhat of a blur as you try to cope with everything you’re experiencing.

However, after time passes, and as you move past the fog of grief and through the grieving process, it’s very comforting to be able to go the funeral home website and see the funeral service when you can absorb all of it and you can hear and see all that was said and done.

You have the choice to make your loved one’s funeral service public (meaning anyone with an internet account can watch it) or private (invitations are sent to the people you want to view the service and they have to enter an access code to be able to watch it).

Copyrighted music could be a caveat to livestreaming a funeral service because many people choose songs that have current copyrights on them (recorded or performed live). If you don’t have the permission to livestream those songs, then the video has to be silenced during those parts of the service.

However, funeral homes have been able to get music licenses that give them permission to livestream almost any kind of copyrighted music you can imagine.

If you’d like to learn more about livestreaming funerals at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit us at our funeral home at 2165 E 89th St., Cleveland, OH 44106, or you can call us today at (216) 791-0770.

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Is a Funeral a Waste of Time?

If you think that funerals at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH are a waste of time, you are not alone. There are other people who don’t know why anyone would want to have a funeral after they die or why anyone would want to go to the funeral of a friend or family member. In fact, if these same people have done end-of-life planning, they’ve probably specified that they don’t want any kind of service before their final disposition.

However, what these people don’t understand is that funerals are not for the person who died, but instead, the family, friends, and acquaintances who live on after them. So, for that reason, they are not a waste of time.

Funerals allow mourners to come together and share their sadness and grief, as well as to pay their respects to the person who has died, and to offer comfort, support, and encouragement to the bereaved family.

Funerals also serve the purpose of creating a safe window in which the family of the deceased can adjust to the reality of their loved one’s death. They come to accept it and to realize that it’s the new life they must go forward with. But all of this happens in a process that promises the softest landing possible in the wake of a death.

Another purpose of the funerals is to allow people to remember the person who died. This includes remembering their character, their achievements, the milestones in their lives, and the impact that they left on others. This can be quite comforting for the grieving family as they see how much people loved and cared about their loved one and how important their loved one was to more than just them.

Funerals are important because they allow grief to be open and acceptable, something that isn’t normally true in our stoic, “get on with it,” Western society. Tears, grief, sorrow, and mourning are often seen as weakness. We grow up with this idea, and it gets reinforced when we see sensitive people ridiculed, bullied, and demeaned when they express these feelings.

As a result, we tend to suppress feelings of sadness, tears, and other emotional displays of sorrow. This is not healthy, because sooner or later those feelings have to be dealt with. This may come out as chronic depression or suicidal thinking, which can have very devastating consequences.

At funerals, however, openly expressing mourning and grief is accepted and supported, which is necessary for both the family of the deceased and for the other people who have gathered to mourn their death.

Funerals also make us consider the meaning of life. We often fly so fast through our lives that we never stop and take the time to consider what life means and what matters in life. The death of someone we know or we love forces us to stop and think about their mortality and our own.

As we enter this time of reflection, we also think about how we want to live our own lives going forward. We may want to slow down and enjoy what we have instead of rushing around to get more than we never take the time to savor. We may want to follow a passion or a dream that we abandoned in our early lives. We may simply want to spend more time with the ones we love.

If you’d like to learn more about funerals at funeral homes in Shaker Heights, OH, our compassionate and experienced team at E. F. Boyd & Son Funeral Home is here to help. You can visit us at our funeral home at 2165 E 89th St., Cleveland, OH 44106, or you can call us today at (216) 791-0770.