Access to grief resources is one of the cremation services offered in Cleveland Heights, OH. You may be experiencing grief because you have had a loved one die from COVID-19 or die during this pandemic. Because the traditions and rituals of funerals have dramatically changed because of the pandemic, your grief over the death of your loved one may seem more unsettled.
If you haven’t lost anyone because of the pandemic or for any other reason, you still may be experiencing grief. You may just feel this persistent sadness that you can’t relate to anything directly or to anything that is concrete.
There are seven different types of grief that we can experience, and you may be experiencing one or more of those types of grief right now.
One type of grief that you may be experiencing is a loss that’s not related to death. You can grieve over the loss of anything that is significant in your life. The loss may be psychological, physical, spiritual, and/or interpersonal.
While some of these losses during our lifetimes will seem minor and manageable, other of these losses will be life-changing and devastating. The more significant the thing was that you lost, the greater your grief will be.
The second type of grief is secondary losses. When you experience a life-changing or devastating loss, there is usually a ripple effect of subsequent losses. That is because the first loss involves such big shifts and breaks that it creates a domino effect of losses that are related to it.
For example, you may have lost your job or are working less than you were before the pandemic. This, in turn, has impacted your financial well-being. If you regularly assembled with the church congregation and there is no virtual way to do that now, you may feel a loss of a spiritual connection. If you’re working from home and don’t have regular contact with your coworkers, you may lose interpersonal connection.
The third kind of grief is an ambiguous loss. Ambiguous loss is grief that happens for someone you love who is still living. It’s different from the type of grief that you experience when a loved one dies.
Ambiguous loss is the grief that you feel when someone disappears out of your life, a close relationship changes, or even when someone develops dementia and their personality and relationship with you is altered forever.
The fourth kind of grief is a cumulative loss. With the COVID-19 pandemic, cumulative loss is a very common type of grief that people are experiencing. Cumulative loss happens when a new loss occurs before you’ve been able to grieve for the previous loss or when you experience multiple losses in rapid succession.
The fifth kind of grief is a non-finite loss. The definitive feature of this type of grief is that reality doesn’t match your expectations. People usually carry this kind of grief for a very long time, but it’s often difficult for them to pinpoint the source of grief.
The sixth type of grief is anticipatory grief. Anticipatory grief is grief that is experienced before the loss actually happens. For example, if you have a loved one who has a terminal illness, it is very likely that you will experience anticipatory grief because you know they’re going to die before they actually die.
The seventh type of grief is disenfranchised grief. Disenfranchised grief happens when you feel like you’re being denied the opportunity to grieve by other people. This kind of grief can happen if you feel ashamed of your grief or you feel like your grief isn’t being validated by other people.